Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Oh, brother!

Jack,

Daddy has named you "Jack the MAK," M.A.K. is for Most Annoying Kid. 

Isn't that sweet?  A few weeks ago we found out you had a recurring double ear infection and felt bad for a bit... like maybe there was a reason for your behavior.  But that was only for a bit, because after a few weeks of antibiotics there was a slight but not total improvement.  We try to explain your behavior to each other as if to say, "no really, there is a reason he acts like this."  But the most we can come up with is that a) you want to do more than you can, b) you want to say more than you can, c) you are the baby of the bunch and don't know how to entertain yourself, or d) you want to do more than you can.  In reality, though, this is what I know to be true:  a) you don't like to be told "no"  b)  you want everyone's full attention and service at all times c) you are into ev-ree-thing and d) you don't like to be told "no."

Not Your Average Dictionary defines boy as "a noise with dirt on it."  That's YOU.  You are a loud, driven, stubborn, LOUD individual.  I used to get SO annoyed with my brother for all his spitting boy noises.  You know exactly the kind I mean- the kind you and Evan make every ride to school in the morning like a bunch of drooling race cars on a mad path to collision.  And those feelings toward my brother resurface when you get started- but just at first- and then I smile.  I smile because this is the first time I've gotten to experience not just "brother" but "brothers."  And I love watching brothers.

You mimic, hug, laugh, push, yell and spit together already and you're only 17 months old.  I can't imagine the treasures- and challenges, (let's keep it real here-) that the following years are going to offer, but let me be clear- YOU owe him.  

He is the most tolerant with you.  You hit him over the head with both hands- just pound on him- and he laughs and kisses your belly.  You poke at him when he's in time out.  Sometimes you sit in his lap when he's in time out.  In fact, maybe I should blame him for your behavior.  He SPOILS you. 

You lie on his lap while you watch Veggie Tales and hold his hand on car rides.  It's ridiculous.  Ridiculously sweet.

(This is actually Madalyn's hand under yours)

"Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero."  -Marc Brown

 

  

You can't ever say you're not loved.  Despite your annoyingness, I kiss your little red mouth a thousand times a day and blow you a hundred kiss across the room, and say I love you a baker's dozen... I stroke your hair ten times a day, and kiss your eyelids at least 5 because there's something I love about your eyelids... other than that they give you sleep... and me sleep...

And Evan does all these things, too.

Well, I better to go bed because Madalyn had a nightmare last night that an owl was in her room and ate the little pumpkin on her bedside table, so it might be another long night... 

...but I just wanted to tell you that you are annoying.  It's true. But! you can never say you aren't loved unconditionally.  And deeply, at that.  If anyone has shown you that kind of love, it's your brother. 

(And somewhere down below his name on that long list of people who love you well, is mine.)

I love you, precious, precious BOY-

Mommy

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Another Halloween

Several weeks ago I was in Ocala doing shoots and we attended a Halloween party while there. Didn't want to mess up the kids' real costumes before Halloween, so we dug into the dress-up chest before leaving home and came up with a pirate and a butterfly- NOT a fairy... do not make the mistake of calling her a fairy; you will be corrected. Oh, and a lion...

Don't you love Madalyn's fake smile?

Ahhh, but how much more do you like Evan's two fingers in his nose and Madalyn scratching her thigh?

No, almost... but we're back to the fake smile again...

Doesn't get much better than eating and being strolled around with a fuzzy blanket over your lap, does it?

Forgot One:

A few mornings ago:

Evan: I am going to try not to do things wrong. Mommy, you never do things wrong, so...

Me: No, Evan- no mommy does lots of things wrong.

Evan: Well when you were little, yes...

Me: No, not just when I was little. I still do lots of things wrong. (I listed some.)

Evan: Hmm. Yeah.

More recently:

Kids are in the shower, Madalyn and Jack fighting over a magic wand, Evan slamming the door open and closed, me on my last nerve: Evan!

Evan melts to the shower floor in despair: It was an accident, mommy!

Me: Evan, it didn't look like an accident- the door is not a toy.

Evan: It was! It was an accident.

Me: Evan.

Evan: You're right. You're right mommy; you do do things wrong because I think you just did one. (Not sassy, just matter of factly, through tears.)

SOOOO, I guess it was truly an accident, then, EH, Katie? Who gets the parent of the year award... anyone, anyone? 'Cause I SURE as heck ain't in for the drawin'.

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Master Multi-tasker

NOT!

Goal for today: Clean entire house. Well.

What I did today:

1. took kids to school

2. went to get Madalyn shoes for her Christmas dress- store closed

3. went to Walmart next door to wait till shoe store opened

4. went to shoe store and found shoes

5. went home: started laundry, fed Jack, placed new print orders, responded to business emails (and a few personal emails)

6. went by Stephanie's to check out her new shelves

7. picked up kids from school

8. gave kids Popsicles

9. put kids down for quiet times

10. filled out birth certificate forms that have needed to be sent out for some time- school has requested

11. ate snack- Little Debbie Christmas cakes and milk, nice and healthy and energizing...

12. put away things I got shopping

13. switched loads of laundry

14. took shower

15. answered doorbell

16. got kids up

17. decided front mulch bed could not go another day without weeding and that the house would not be entirely cleaned at this point anyway...

So, currently:

Jack is having a leisurely shower while I type this. Having helped me profusely with weeding the front mulch bed in the yard, he deserves it. It was so nice to have his company while I made myself a human till; vigorously flinging dirt and weeds through the air. He flung dirt next to me in the same driven, focused manner as though this were something he understood, and every now and then spouting out a sentence with guttural force... or a short paragraph. I have no idea what he said to me out there, but he sure knew what he was saying.

The older kids are currently across the street at Savanna's house. Her grandmother, who she calls Coo-ka (not sure how they spell it but that's how they say it,) is fluent in Spanish- it's her native tongue- and she's started this WONDERFUL habit of giving the kids Spanish lessons on Tuesdays when she watches Savanna. A few minutes ago, (shortly after they ran right in the neighbor's front door against my orders,) I walked over after them to find each of the three in a lawn chair, listening to Coo-ka. Man, she is good! She just takes charge and leads them seamlessly through her mental lesson plan; has their full and undivided attention. I LOVE that woman.

First, I love her because she is always smiling and sweet despite the fact that she's a neat freak and I'm a slob, (and am forever presenting my foyer to her in obnoxious slob fashion.) Secondly, I love her because she took my kids off my hands for a few hours. Thirdly, I love her because she is teaching Evan Spanish, and Evan loves Spanish... and she teaches him IN Spanish the entire time. And fourthly (is that a word?) I love how she says Savanna.

We say, "Suh-vay-nuh." She says, "SAH-VAH-NAH," each syllable with equal force and importance, and makes it a whole different name altogether... makes the child sound like Spanish royalty. I LOVE it. I want my name to be Savanna when she says it like that!

I also love how God does special, personal things for us like this, like bringing Coo-ka into Evan's world. I was just thinking how much he would love Spanish lessons when she whirled into his universe. She has already taken home a picture he drew of himself with Savanna and Madalyn because she wants to frame it. She just might be his first crush.

Hmm... it's now dawned on me that Jack is no longer having a leisurely shower, but now standing behind me, dripping wet, and tearing into a bag of wipes like a monkey on a cupcake. Excuse me a minute while I take care of that...

Ok, I'm back. I think I hear kids outside the front door now... excuse me again...

Ok, three are in the shower now.

So, where was I? Well, I guess the whole reason I got on here was to record some recent conversations I've had with Evan, and rather than carry on in the above multi-personality-disordered fashion, I'll now cut to the chase:

Yesterday before dinner:

Evan: Mommy, I'm going to try to stop sinning. I'm never going to sin again.

Me, unaware that he even knew sin could work as a verb: Evan, why do you want to stop sinning so badly?

Evan: Because when I sin, you get mad at me.

Me, feeling smaller and lower than a flea: Evan, if you were absolutely perfect and never did a thing wrong ever again that wouldn't make me love you anymore than I already love you now. I already love you soooo much and I couldn't love you any more than I already do. (And I launched in to a panicked mini-sermon about the only reason he should want to act better- to give back to God, but that God already loves him immensely....) It is frustrating to mommy sometimes when you disobey, (I continued,) and sometimes I get impatient and lose my temper- and I have really been that way lately, I'm sorry. Do you forgive me?

Evan: Yes.

Me, repeating the very pattern I am correcting in him: I am going to try to stop sinning and getting impatient with you, too, but I will mess up because I'm a sinner- it's what I do-

Evan: Yeah, ever since Adam and Eve.

Me: Yes. But do you understand- I will try to be more patient with you, okay? I'm so sorry. I will try to be calm and talk more calmly. Do you understand?

Evan: Yeah. Like Mrs. Stephanie?

AS Shaun said- OUCH.

I'll write another post soon about the ways that conversation has scarred influenced me...

Yesterday after dinner:

Me: Because you guys disobeyed me, you are not going to get books before bed.

Evan: I said I was sorry- puh-leeeeeze give me another chance?

Me: No, Evan.

Evan: Puh- leeeeeze?

Me: No.

Evan: Mommy, pleeeze- I won't ever do it again!

Me: I made my decision, Evan.

Evan: I know. I'm trying to get rid of your decision.

Today on the way home from school:

Me: We still have Christmas shopping to do. Maybe daddy can take you guys out for special nights, each of you, and Evan can get a gift for Madalyn and Madalyn can get a gift for Evan...

Evan: What do you think God wants for Christmas? What can I give Him?

Me: You know what God likes from us? He likes us to love each other. That's the gift He loves the most; that we first love Him, and then that we love each other and show each other how much He loves them by being love to them.

Evan: I love God SO much. I love Him SOOO much, mommy.

Me: Me, too, Evan. Me too.

Goal for today: Clean the entire house. Well.

What I did today: Wrote a blog. And not so well.

Goal for tomorrow: Clean the entire house.

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Happy Thanksgiving!

(Is she precious, or what??)

Wish Lists

This morning the kids and I sat down and poured over the Christmas toy magazines that have been filling our mailbox this season. We got out the red and green crayons and paper and made wish-lists for Santa. They follow:

Evan's Christmas List

1. Dinosaur sleeping bag

2. Stepping stone kit

3. book making kit- Illustory

4. electronic state game (teaches you states and capitals.)

5. Lincoln Logs

6. Solar System glow int he dark room mobile

7. Dinosaur models you paint

8. EZ Art Projector

9. Electronic Planet toy (teaches you facts about planets and space)

10. Art case

11. games

12. talking clock (teaches you time)

13. microscope

14. marble race

15. walkie talkies

16. laser guns that shoot cans off log

Madalyn's Christmas List

1. new doll with curly hair

2. doll clothes, diapers, shoes

3. baby doll bed

4. castle sleeping bag

5. stepping stone kit

6. Fisher Price Doll House

7. tea set

8. camera

9. games

10. Princess walkie talkies

11. diaper bag

12. make-up

13. jewelry

14. stick-on earrings

Jack's Christmas List

1. vacuum cleaner

2. cleaning supplies

Shaun's Christmas List

1. tickets to the Pepsi 400

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Sunday, November 04, 2007

Photography Blog

I've been meaning to announce my new photography blog here at McDonnell Place.  It's a way for me to keep current without having to revamp the photography site every month...

 

http://howiwonderphotography.com/blog/

Saturday, November 03, 2007

Return to Neverland

This was Jack's initial reaction to his siblings' costumes... first he stared in admiration...

THEN he HUGGED each of them passionately... it was all he knew to do to express such delight with their appearance... and Evan welcomed it, as you can see... he LOVES his little brother madly and they're finally starting to play together frequently.

Madalyn looks SO MUCH OLDER to me in these pictures!!  Where did my baby girl go??

   

Captain Hook and cast before he lost his moustache...

Wrestling- to kill time waiting for friends to arrive...

Jack's girlfriend, Gracie.  Okay, well ONE of Jack's girlfriends.  There's also Emily, Shannon and three new girls on the way... he will have his PICK, let me tell you!

Captain Hook and Peter Pan fighting

Captain Hook retreating with his moonshine...      Ethan testing out the macaroni... 

 

Madalyn testing out the marshmallows...

"Go Navy, beat Army" cheerleader, Sydney, showing her cheer spirit...

More spirit...

This is the pumpkin cake my mom made when we were little.  You just invert two bundt cakes and tie plastic spiders to a Dixie cup for the stem so the kids can pull it out and watch the spiders dangle.  Fun stuff, people.

 

Omitting pixie dust ... I can't TELL YOU the extent of the wedgie factor this night!  Could've set records... her costume was too short for her, poor kid.  She was trooper... I think I was as happy as she was to take that thing off of her at the end of the night.  Give her some sweet relief!                         

Evan wasn't sure about the whole concept of knocking on strangers' doors.  Every house he checked to make sure it was alright and that I would be watching.  It's nice when they're watching you so closely you don't even have to watch them.  One less to worry about.  Madalyn, on the other hand, led the pack...

Examining their loot and digging in...

Candy faces

Sweet faces.  A good night was had by all...

Thursday, November 01, 2007

Off to Neverland: Batch One from Halloween

We had a Halloween party with friends; chili and trick-or-treating.  So much fun... more pictures with friends to come- couldn't get to all of them tonight, I have so many!!  Thanks for all the fun, you guys!!  Hope your kids slept as well as ours did last night!